Haven’t you heard all the stories about failure?
Don’t you fear failing? Fear being seen as a failure? Afraid to make mistakes? To take risks because of how others will perceive you?
Failure, it’s a powerful word.
Failure stinks like a bag of sweaty gym clothes that you left in your trunk and forgot about
Eventually, the stench will linger all over your car and on you.
Failure can be a vicious pain, to some it’s a horrendously scary concept.
However, what if I were to tell you that failure is actually the most beautiful thing you can imagine?
That failing isn’t all that bad and that you should want to fail in life?
Take it from a perennial failure who’s a perfectionist, failure is my best friend at times.
Failure, My Best Friend?
I know, you’re probably questioning why a perfectionist would adore failure. Most of the time you’d think that perfectionists would abhor failure and do the best possible to avoid it.
I’m here to tell you that that’s not necessarily the case. As a perfectionist, I fail often. Too many times It’s because I’m a perfectionist that I fail.
I’m a failure, and I wear that stench with me daily. Constantly analyzing where I went wrong in order to do better next time. Seeking knowledge and understanding of my failures so that I can be as close to perfect in every scenario. As a perfectionist, failure is my greatest achievement. And it can be yours too.
Own Your Failure, make it a part of you
They say the greatest champions were all failures at some point. That they had to fail before they could succeed. We all know the saying about Thomas Edison, how he (found 999 ways to not create the light bulb).
There’s also Julius Caesar who in his conquest of the known world at the time was said to have cried like a baby in front of a mural for Alexander the Great. Alexander and 32 perished conquering all of the known world. At the time, Caesar, almost a decade older than Alexander deemed himself a failure because he had simply been an aristocratic general fighting for the Roman army. Years later he’d be the leader of the known world before his ultimate demise.
What Caesar did was that he wore his failure, and used it as motivation to catapult him to the success he designed for himself.
he embraced failure, and let it fuel the engines that drove him to his inner glory.
Failure isn’t as bad as we make it seem. In this social media world, we like to paint perfect pictures of an ugly world that we reside in. Thinking that all the flashes of pictures aren’t without the maelstroms of fire that come before. In truth, nobody’s perfect. Everyone fails at something. And those that fail over and over seem to have the most triumphant stories.
Embrace failure, bathe in it
Why is that? That is because they embrace failure. In fact, they bathe in it. Take LeBron James, who is currently in his 10th NBA finals and has failed to capture a championship 6 out of those times. In some respects, he’s been deemed a failure because of his losing finals record. However, he’s also seen as a top 2 player of all time by many media behind Michael Jordan. LeBron has failed numerous times to capture the Larry O’Brien Trophy yet he still finds a way to succeed and reach the stage to earn a new one.
This is because he allows his failures to become one thing, lessons. When you allow your failures to become lessons they don’t hold the weight they used to, and they become badges of honor and battle scars rather than heavy burdens left to crush your spirits. It is through our failures that we achieve our greatest triumphs. It is because we learn from those mistakes, those failures, and do better next time.
So next time you fail, embrace it. Live in your failure. Fail forward and fail often. As a writer, I fail to get published in publications all the time. Yet I still publish because I know I was designed to be a successful writer and In time publications will beg me to sign or write for them from time to time.
As a writer, I fail often in performing my poetry or even getting published. however, I use each failure as a marker for my success in the path to becoming the best possible writer I can be. I once failed at being published on a site I wanted desperately around 5 times, then suddenly they accepted the sixth article and I was on my way.
Failure can be a burden or your greatest masterpiece. It’s up to you to decide.